Same-Sex Marriage Resources for Churches and Pastors


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Since the Supreme Court ruling legalizing gay marriage, I’ve been trying to gather as many helpful resources as I can find for churches and pastors. I’ve gathered these to share with the pastors of the Union Association of Baptists where I serve as Director of Missions, but I realize that other pastors and churches would find these useful as well. Please feel free to share these with other pastors and churches who will benefit from this information.


Click to access Protecting_Your_Ministry_ADF_ERLC.pdf

Click to access KBC.Sample-Church-Wedding-Policy.pdf

Click to access Church-Wedding-Policy.Cornerstrone.pdf

Click to access Wedding-Policy.pdf

Click to access Facility-Use-Policy.Alliance-Defending-Freedom.pdf

Click to access KBC.Sample-Membership-Policy.pdf




Click to access What-You-Need-To-Know-About-Marriage-Booklet.pdf

Click to access Addressing_Gay_Marriage_Arguments.pdf

Click to access Why_Marriage_Matters.pdf

Click to access homosexuality-and-the-bible.pdf


Book Review: Can These Bones Live?


519F84nmcRLChurch revitalization is one of my areas of special interest, as I have pastored two different traditional churches in East Tennessee and currently serve as a Director of Missions in an association of mostly older, established churches.  When I heard that Dr. Bill Henard was writing a church revitalization book, I was anxious for its release. Dr. Henard is the pastor of Porter Memorial Baptist Church and teaches in the Billy Graham School of Missions, Evangelism, and Ministry at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is also from East Tennessee (I’m biased) and he pastored a church in my high school town for a number of years. I know that he is familiar with ministering in established churches in the Bible belt and was eager to hear what he had to say. Can These Bones Live? did not disappoint. An immensely practical book with sound foundational theology and methodology, Can These Bones Live? deals with the tough issues in the area of church revitalization.

Dr. Henard begins by laying a theological foundation for church revitalization. He stresses a commitment to the authority of Scripture, reliance on the Holy Spirit, and the ministry of prayer. Chapter two deals with evaluating the church’s current situation and assessing the challenges involved in leading an established congregation through the revitalization process. The rest of the chapters each deal with different problems concerning church revitalization. The chapter titles may at first glance sound pessimistic, but they represent problems that are dealt with by each chapter. The final chapter introduces The Change Matrix, a helpful system of bringing about lasting change in an established organization.

Can These Bones Live? is a very practical book that offers several concrete steps to revitalizing the local church. One of the most refreshing aspects of this book is Dr. Henard’s candid approach to the task. He doesn’t make grandiose claims, or unrealistic promises. Henard assures the reader that church revitalization is difficult work and is a spiritual warfare. However, he doesn’t just leave the reader discouraged, he jumps down into the trenches and begins teaching how to facilitate change in the church. Henard recognizes that some churches simply have no interest in growing, but even in cases like this, there is no cause to give up. Henard says, “If the church does not want to grow and the reason lies in the lack of spiritual growth in the church, the pastor needs to set aside most any major plans or vision and concentrate on developing disciples” (pg. 58). This is but one example where wisdom meets realism in Can These Bones Live? and I found this quite refreshing.

One might criticize Can These Bones Live? for being pragmatic and not dwelling enough on theology. However, this misunderstands the purpose of the book. It is written to address the oft-neglected practical aspect of ministry in a declining church. If one is interested in church revitalization, the practical considerations will have to be dealt with and this is exactly what Henard accomplishes. Each chapter is replete with practical wisdom and you can tell that Dr. Bill Henard has gained much of his knowledge through “on-the-job training.” Can These Bones Live? belongs on the reading list of anyone involved or interested in church revitalization.

The Character of Leadership 1 Timothy 3:1-15



WANTED: Christian leaders and teachers! Must have church membership and a pulse! Does this sound familiar? Too often in ministry we find ourselves shorthanded when it comes to responsible leaders. We have positions to fill and not enough qualified leaders to fill them. As a result, we enlist unqualified volunteers hoping for the best and then we find ourselves disappointed. Timothy was a young pastor at Ephesus who probably faced this same ministry challenge. His mentor, the apostle Paul, gave him some key characteristics to look for in potential leaders in 1 Timothy 3:1-15. Paul deals specifically with pastors and deacons in this passage, but these qualifications are a must for anyone in Christian leadership. These characteristics deal with three areas of a leader’s life: his character, competence, and creed.
A leader’s character must be “blameless” and “respectable” (vs. 2, 8). A leader must take every measure to protect his integrity and never give away influence. The reason for this is to avoid falling into “disgrace” and “a snare of the devil” (vs. 7). We lose influence when we lose integrity. How many leaders have been destroyed because a scandal destroyed their influence? Paul warns of some common character flaws that endanger our integrity: sexual sin, self-indulgence, greed, anger, and hypocrisy (vs. 2-8). Nearly all leadership failings stem from these character flaws. Many may disagree with our theology, but a true leader will never give others a valid reason to question his integrity or ethics.
A Christian leader must also be a competent leader who is “sensible” (vs. 2). Someone who is sensible has their priorities straight, is disciplined, and is serious about their responsibility. An unorganized, unprepared person who is flippant about their duties does not need to be given spiritual responsibilities. A Christian leader must be “able to teach.” It is not enough to know God’s Word personally; we must be able to communicate it to others so they understand it. Some aspects of competent leadership must be developed over time, such as the ability to wield leadership with humility (vs. 6). This is why young Christians should not be placed in leadership roles immediately (vs. 6, 10). We must follow before we can lead. One great indicator of leadership competence for an adult is the status in their home. An irresponsible spouse or parent will make an irresponsible leader (vs. 4, 5, 12). Individuals who don’t display competence in secular matters won’t be competent with spiritual matters either (Luke 16:10, 11).
A leader must be committed to some type of creed; in our case that creed is the Bible. Christian leaders must hold “the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience” (vs. 9). What is the mystery of faith? “[God] was manifested in the flesh, vindicated in the Spirit, seen by angels, preached among the nations, believed on in the world, taken up in glory” (vs. 16). If a leader cannot affirm the doctrines of Christianity, he is certainly not eligible for Christian leadership. Leaders in a local church should be familiar with the church’s doctrinal statement to insure clear communication on what type of teaching is expected. We cannot compromise our convictions especially where leadership is concerned.
I recently heard a Christian speaker say that we recruit 95% of our problems. Perhaps this is true. It is not enough to simply desire to be a leader (vs. 1), but one must possess godly leadership abilities and ethics. Paul gave this list of leadership qualities to help the church identify those ready to lead and to help leaders to stay on track (vs. 15). We need to intentionally develop these traits in others in order to raise up capable leaders in our churches. If we discard this vital checklist from our leader training and enlisting process, we are ignoring the God of order and inviting chaos into our midst.
This post was originally published in the Baptist & Reflector, February 5, 2013.